In my last post, I asked you to tell me about your inner voice and how it tells you it’s time for a change. Here are some of the things I found out:

  • I know it’s time to change when I feel exhausted
  • My inner voice tells me that I can’t wait forever
  • I dream about being free from my day-to-day obligations
  • This may not be my inner voice, but I feel stuck where I am and too burned out to change it


  • I don’t know when it’s time…I just know that I don’t like where I am


Quick story: Quite a few years back, before I was helping others create their paths to thrive, I found myself having to create my own way out of where I was stuck. I had a “great job”…on paper. The right salary and benefits and even decent job duties. 


Everything looked ok on the outside, but I was also unchallenged, uninspired, and chained to my desk…even when there was no work to actually get done.


On the inside, I felt like I was selling my life to my employer. 


When I wasn’t working, I didn’t have the energy, time, or freedom to see the places I wanted to see and do the things that I wanted to do. 

I was missing out on the experiences I most desired because I was living my day-to-day life in someone else’s idea of what my life should be like.


We are taught to “get with the program”: grow up, get a job, have a family, and hopefully have some spare time to escape the grind. 


These are not inherently bad things. We all have priorities and want to have meaningful lives and connections.


But (there is a big but here)…


We often feel stuck and contained by “the program”…and we don’t think there is a way to change it.


The bigger But?


Our inner voices are often silenced by our comforts. That’s what’s really holding us back. Often, we’re just comfortable enough to stay where we are and miss out on living more fully, completely, and freely. We let the fears win.


Change is uncomfortable. It brings our fears to the surface. It makes us feel queasy and uneasy.


Here’s the BIGGEST BUT to consider:


BUT what if your life is worth it? What if you could be free and thrive?


(yes, I realize I’m talking a lot about buts…it’s kind of funny to say out loud)


It is possible to design your life, make your own “program,” and create what you are seeking. 


You just have to stop being a BUT and decide.


Decisions, decisions,



P.S. My challenge to you is to make a list and write out your buts. What’s keeping you stuck? What are you giving up by staying exactly where you are now? Trust me on this, putting it on paper is eye-opening. Let me know what you discover, or if you’ve decided to change, click here.